Hence the husband may know when his wife does something to hurt someone, through repeated experiences, though the wife may also not know it at times.
It means these are the times when even she may not be consciously aware of the fact that she’s engaging in one such act on purpose; since such act may be controlled by her subconscious mind. However, since the expressions given by her are the ones which his husband duly recognizes; he’s able to understand that she’s engaging in an act of revenge and not in a positive or neutral act; though she may assert so.
Hence when the wife tells her husband that she doesn’t intend to waste his money and the things she wants to do with this money are important for her; the husband may not believe her as he sees the expressions of revenge on her face. It means though the wife may tell him and though she may herself believe that she wants this money in order to enjoy and not in order to trouble her husband; her expressions may speak out that she indeed wants this money to trouble her husband.
This difference should be noted duly. A wife may spend a lot of money for her own pleasure and she may not have anything negative against her husband. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of money; primarily in order to throw her husband’s money away; and what she purchases with that money becomes secondary. As already mentioned; the wife in the first case may spend a lot of money but not the kind which is not justified according to her husband’s financial incomes. Hence her primary objective is to seek enjoyment for herself and not to trouble her husband.
However in the second case, the wife primarily wants to throw her husband’s money away and whether she’s able to enjoy with this money or not, doesn’t matter to her. An interesting thing is that the first type of wife may only do things with this money, which she really likes whereas the second type of wife may like each and everything she does with this money. This is because the pleasure of the first type of wife is genuinely coming through the things which she can avail through her husband’s money and hence she’ll be interested only in those things which she really likes.
On the other hand, the pleasure of the second type of wife is coming through the wastage of her husband’s money though even she may not realize it consciously. Hence her pleasure starts as soon as an amount of money is wasted on anything, since it is not that thing but it is the destruction of money that gives her pleasures.
Since the wife in the present example may be doing so without conscious knowledge; she may not believe her husband when he tells her that she’s asking for more money; only in order to trouble him by wasting more and more of his hard earned money. The wife may think he’s making excuses in order to avoid giving her more money and she may develop even more dislike or hate for her husband as he neither loves her nor he wants to give her money and on top of that; he puts false blames on her. When it comes to the husband; he realizes that she’s not only wasting his money; but she’s lying and arguing also, when he sees it obvious on her face that she’s joyful when he says she doesn’t intend to waste his money.
The same may happen in the opposite case, which means when the husband says that he’s starting a new hotel in a faraway city; genuinely because he wants to expand his business and not in order to trouble her by staying away from her; the wife may not believe him at all. This is because she recognizes those specific expressions appearing on his face; which appear only when he’s trying to trouble someone. Hence she may start hating him more because he’s trying to trouble her and at the same time; he’s lying to her about it.
On the other hand, the husband may genuinely think he’s speaking the truth and when his wife tells him that he’s telling a lie; he may develop more negativity for her. The husband may think his wife tells her lies and then she calls him a liar, and the wife may also think the same about him. Hence they may both find the other one lying or hurting intentionally; when the other party may be doing so without conscious knowledge. These are just two acts and there may be a number of other such acts which may generate more and more negativity between them.
In some worse cases; the husband or wife may engage in an extramarital affair with a sibling or a very good friend of the spouse; primarily in order to hurt the spouse; though the partner doing so may not know it consciously. It means if the wife engages in an extramarital affair with her husband’s friend; she may think that the reason she’s doing so is because she likes or even loves her husband’s friend. However deep down; she’s only doing so in order to take revenge on her husband. In the worst cases; the husband or wife may kill the other partner for various reasons which may be conscious or subconscious.
Looking at one such subconscious reason; suppose the wife is kidnapped for ransom and the husband has no involvement at all in this, though he hates his wife a lot. The kidnappers contact him, they ask him for ransom and they warn him that if he informs the police; they’ll kill his wife. If such is the case; no matter how hard this husband may try on conscious level, to not inform police; he’ll end up informing the police. If the police succeed in finding his wife, that’s fine but if the police fail and the kidnappers kill his wife; he’s equally involved in this murder though on a subconscious level.
It should be noted that even a person who genuinely loves his wife may inform the police and even his wife may get hurt; but his intentions behind informing the police are different and that is what matters in the end. For instance, a husband who loves his wife does some investigation about the kidnapper gang and he comes to know that they kill the people they kidnap, even if ransom is paid. Hence he may inform the police instead of paying them the ransom as he feels this is the only way to save his wife.
On the other hand, even when the husband who hates his wife comes to know that this gang never kills the kidnapped person if the ransom is paid; he may take a chance and inform the police. He may create a number of conscious reasons to justify this act; like crime should not be promoted; law should prevail and other such things. However in reality; what he wants deep down is to get rid of his wife. Hence he may feel that he’s doing the right thing by informing the police but in reality; his subconscious intention behind doing so is to give the kidnapers a reason to kill his wife.
Once again, it is the intention behind an act which decides its nature and not the act. The husbands in both the cases are engaging in the same act of informing the police but they’re doing so for opposite reasons. One husband is doing so because of love for his wife as he knows only police can save his wife and paying ransom to this gang means getting his wife killed. The other husband is informing the police because of hate for his wife; as he wishes deep down that his wife should die. Hence if the wives die in both these cases; the first husband is a still a savior whereas the second husband is a killer.
Moving on, even a marriage can happen for negative reason due to pending karmic settlements from the past life, from this life or from this life as well as from past lives. Looking at one more such example; a woman may engage in a love relationship with a guy as he may be a good friend of her former lover who dumped her. This friend may show sympathy and before she knows; they fall in love. In reality; this act of love may be an act of revenge and she wishes to trouble her former lover through this friend.
When it comes to this guy; he liked this woman from the beginning and he even tried to get close to her. However, the woman rejected him and he developed disliking for her deep down; though he may still think he likes her on conscious level. He may also feel jealous of his friend as this woman rejected him due to his friend as she was interested in him. Hence this opportunity gives both of them the chances to settle their scores.
The woman knows this friend likes her but what she doesn’t know is that his liking has turned into disliking, long time back; and even this friend may not know it as it is happening on subconscious level. The guy may think that this woman really loves him now and she could even have loved him back then; if his friend was not there in the picture. In fact, the woman may even tell it to this guy that she liked him back then also but she was already interested in his friend. Hence both of them may feel the other person is truly in love with them when all that is happening are lies deep down. If this marriage happens; it is certainly going to face a number of problems and both these people are going to suffer a lot due to each other, though they may not trouble each other consciously.
Let’s now check the purity of your love. When you’re in love with someone say with a woman, more you feel the need to express your love through assertive words, acts or gestures, less pure is your love and more is the percentage of corruption in your love, though this need may be subconscious in many such cases. This is partly because of the rule which says that your mind expresses each and everything it has; whether or not you may know it; which means it may do so consciously or subconsciously. This rule has already been explained in an earlier part of this book.
Another rule is also partly affecting this equation and this rule says that whenever you have any type of guilt or regret whether conscious or subconscious; you do something to get rid of it; consciously or subconsciously. This rule has also been explained earlier. Moving on; if all you have for this woman is love and nothing else, which means you love her purely; only love will be expressed and nothing else as love is all there is and hence love is all that can come out. This is in accordance with the first rule.
At the same time, since your love is absolutely pure, which means it is not corrupted; there is no guilt deep down and there is only joy as pure love can give birth to joy and joy alone. Since there is no guilt either on conscious level or on subconscious level; there is no need to engage in an act to balance out any type of guilt, related to this relationship.
Combining both these rules; it can be understood that if your love is pure; only love will be expressed naturally which means subconsciously; and you won’t need to do anything to assert your love through any types of words, acts or gestures, whether such need is conscious or subconscious; where latter is the type of this need in most such cases. It means the need to assert your love is practiced by your subconscious mind, when your love is corrupted, and even you may not be aware of it on conscious level.